What is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce Mediation is a process designed to help you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse decide the terms of your divorce. In mediation you both meet with a neutral divorce mediator. With the mediator’s help, you work through the issues you need to resolve so the two of you can end your marriage as amicably and cost-effectively as possible. The goal is coming to agreement on what is best for both of you.

Primary Issues Covered in Mediation

Development of a Parenting Plan
This will determine where your children will live, how much time each parent spends with the children, how decisions about the children’s well being are going to be made, and the guidelines you want to establish between yourselves as parenting partners.

Development of a Plan for the Distribution of Assets and Liabilities
This covers your house, bank accounts, investments, vehicles, retirement accounts and other assets.

Development of a Plan for Financial Support
This may include child support, spousal maintenance, and health and life insurance decisions.


Memorandum of Understanding

When a successful mediation concludes, the divorce mediator prepares a Memorandum of Understanding, which is a written document that contains the specific details of all the decisions you have agreed upon. This written document is then used by an attorney to prepare and file your legal documents at much lower cost than a contested divorce.

What to Expect

In divorce mediation, the focus is on the future rather than on past transgressions. The mediator’s role is to help you to communicate and reach decisions on these important issues. A divorce mediator will assist you to keep the lines of communication open, brainstorm ideas, reality-test the solutions, promote empathy and create an environment where you can make the best decisions for your futures. Your divorce mediator will keep you focused on the issues at hand, saving you time and supporting you in creating your new, separate lives.

Divorce mediation is flexible and confidential. It gives you and your spouse a way to settle the conflicts between you in a manner that helps your personal relationship after you are divorced. This is extremely important if you have children and will interact with your ex-partner for decades to come. Through divorce mediation, communication between the spouses is usually strengthened, making your post-divorce relationship better. This is particularly valuable when you face parenting issues ahead regarding your children.

Mediation is a process that you control. You set the schedule and the pace—and mediation is a voluntary process that only continues if you want it to.