Gratitude

The last weeks of the year—Thanksgiving and the winter holidays—often bring to mind the concept of gratitude—appreciation for positive experiences, thankfulness for growth in understanding, and gratefulness for the enrichment of new opportunities. This concept of...

Telling Children about the Divorce

For parents who have decided to separate and divorce, the prospect of breaking this news to the children can be overwhelming—even paralyzing. This topic will often arise in mediation when parents are still living together and would prefer to resolve matters involving...

Pillars of Trust

In any successful relationship, trust is the foundation. When you can trust someone, you are more likely to be open and more willingly vulnerable in that person’s presence. In many broken marriages, the trust between spouses has diminished—a little or even to the...

Understanding doesn’t mean agreement—but it’s often a good start!

At the beginning of the divorce mediation process, I send out a questionnaire to each spouse to help me find out how the couple communicates. In the responses I often discover that both find it hard to communicate effectively. This is not particularly surprising, as...

It’s okay to say, “I don’t know.”

An article I recently read by Stephanie Vozza was entitled, “’I don’t know’ can be the smartest answer.” This caught my eye because I have often used a similar saying, namely, “The most important thing that you can know is what you don’t know.” Stephanie’s article...

Contributions Matter

Each marriage has its own uniqueness, involving two individuals with their own unique identify and style. In past generations, there have typically been assigned roles, like working father and stay-at-home mother, but this division of labor has changed significantly...