Authenticity

Jan 28, 2022

It has been said that mediation is an art form. This depiction resonates with me—when I think of art, my mind goes to the concept of being creative.

While there are common themes to mediation styles, I think of my own mediation style as being my signature. It is mine and no one else’s. As part of that signature, a key attribute for me as a good mediator is to be authentic.

Creativity is a hallmark of mediation. How a mediator practices his/her creative skills is often a matter of style. While there are common themes to mediation styles, I think of my own mediation style as being my signature. It is mine and no one else’s. As part of that signature, a key attribute for me as a good mediator is to be authentic.

As I consider what it means to be authentic in my role as a mediator, this is what comes to mind:

Being who I am

  • Curious, which reflects my interest in what is important to you and why it’s important to you
  • Transparent, meaning that I want you to know about me, why I became a mediator, why I believe in mediation, and about my experience outside of mediation, including my family
  • An educator, by providing information and resources to help you make informed decisions that are acceptable and meet your future goals

Being present

  • Focused on what is happening, what is being said, what is being felt
  • Promoting constructive communication, where everyone is heard, and building understanding.
  • Acknowledging and validating the needs that are expressed and the emotions being felt by you and by your soon-to-be ex

Being consistent

  • Offering a calm and safe space for challenging conversations in each mediation session
  • Providing a structured approach to mediation that allows for adaptation to individual needs
  • Asking important questions to ensure that the impact of proposed decisions is properly considered
  • Being responsive to all communication outside of mediation sessions, including inquiries from new clients
  • Being thorough to ensure that all topics are clearly addressed in mediation

As a mediator, my intention is always to be trustable, available and creative in my responses. I promise to be someone you both can count on for professionalism and thoughtful, compassionate support in your divorce process.