Giving Credit and Feeling Gratitude

Over the years, most of the divorces I have mediated have ended with complete agreement between spouses, allowing them to build their own plan for moving forward with their separate lives. Generally, clients who self-refer to mediation are looking for a process that...

Co-Parenting When It Matters Most

I am thinking about the two-year-old daughter of current divorce mediation clients. The child was hospitalized with pneumonia, something I only know only because the couple had to cancel their mediation appointment this week—which was totally understandable under the...

Radical Self Love and Divorce

I recently read a thoughtful essay in the New York Times, by Lara Bazelon: “Divorce Can Be an Act of Radical Self-Love.” Ms. Bazelon’s observations reflect spouses in divorce mediation who may still feel connected to a partner, but feel their own needs more acutely....

Is Mediation Adversarial? It Depends…

I have recently read discussions that refer to mediation as being adversarial. I disagree with this characterization of mediation as an adversarial process. To me, the term adversarial describes conflict, where hostility and opposition to hearing others’ viewpoint...

Patience Pays Off

For almost everyone, divorce is very difficult, even when both spouses know the marriage needs to end and think they can agree on how to move forward. There is often a sense of loss, maybe even failure, and self-examination—what went wrong? When there is not a shared...