Mediation is a (Good) Choice

“Can mediation work for my divorce?” The answer to that question will vary, depending upon who you are and whom you ask. When I hear this question as a divorce mediator, I take an optimistic approach— informed by my experience in working with hundreds of couples over...

Surprises Can Create Opportunities

In a recent divorce mediation session, my clients were discussing a real estate matter. After one spouse spoke, the other exclaimed, “This is the first time I’m hearing you say that!” In that moment, the conversation stalled, while both processed what had been said....

Seize the Freedom to Be Who You Are

In many divorces I have mediated, one or both spouses talk about feeling trapped in a marriage. Perhaps you are feeling that you’ve been unable to pursue an opportunity and have lost ground in your quest for enrichment or fulfillment. I often wonder how much of what...

Listening to the Chorus or to Yourself

In any life-changing experience, the support of friends and close family is not only important—it is cherished. This is especially true in divorce, when you are encountering the emotional upheaval of change, uncertainty, loss—there is so much to process! This...